One of my closest friends from my single days just told me she was pregnant. I am thrilled for her as I know how much she wanted this and how long a road she has traveled to get here.
I am also selfishly thrilled for myself because now we’ll be in the same life space again and I can’t wait to share this with her.
For example, it will now be easier for us to get together as families. It’s horrible to admit, but with young children, it is just so much easier to socialize with other families with young children. Don’t get me wrong. My friend is awesome and has selflessly met us at kid friendly restaurants at ungodly early hours of the day. But I always felt a tinge of guilt when my kids distracted me mid-sentence or cut the visit short.
Also, as ashamed as I am to admit it, I’ve been holding back on her. I try not to talk too much about my own kids out of guilt that conceiving has not been easy for them. I felt guilty that I have kids and she doesn’t, so I choose downplay or ignore this aspect of my life in our conversations. Our friendship was still strong, but it wasn’t like our single days when the floodgates were open and we shared everything.
Has anyone else harbored these feelings of guilt or uncertainty with their friends without children?
Struggles with Friends who don’t have Kids
One of my closest friends from my single days just told me she was pregnant. I am thrilled for her as I know how much she wanted this and how long a road she has traveled to get here.
I am also selfishly thrilled for myself because now we’ll be in the same life space again and I can’t wait to share this with her.
For example, it will now be easier for us to get together as families. It’s horrible to admit, but with young children, it is just so much easier to socialize with other families with young children. Don’t get me wrong. My friend is awesome and has selflessly met us at kid friendly restaurants at ungodly early hours of the day. But I always felt a tinge of guilt when my kids distracted me mid-sentence or cut the visit short.
Also, as ashamed as I am to admit it, I’ve been holding back on her. I try not to talk too much about my own kids out of guilt that conceiving has not been easy for them. I felt guilty that I have kids and she doesn’t, so I choose downplay or ignore this aspect of my life in our conversations. Our friendship was still strong, but it wasn’t like our single days when the floodgates were open and we shared everything.
Has anyone else harbored these feelings of guilt or uncertainty with their friends without children?