Well many moms judge when they do not have all the facts. What may look like a ‘typical child’ may not.. They may have underlining conditions that causes outbrust or a mom to react differently then a different ability child. I have been told mean things but they just do not understand my situation
My worst moment was when my son was 18 months old and another little boy bit him in daycare. I found out who bit him and I didn’t speak to the mom for weeks. It seems so ridiculous now, but I was a bit traumatized and thought it was the mom’s fault, till my little one started into his oral phase, then I felt like a hypocrite!
I just saw a five year old in my daughter’s kindergarten class who “just dyed her hair blonde” hello – she’s 5! Who lets their 5 year old do that, or more accurately, does that to a 5 year old?
The other mother is my daughter in law. She was watching me and her son bake cookies. She told me he couldn’t have a cookie because he hadn’t finished his dinner. I said that these were healthy cookies. And rightfully so, she reminded me that she was his mother. That would have been it if she hadn’t continued by saying that she knows what is best for her children. That is when I lost my cool by mentioning for the first time that she left her 10 month old alone in a running, unlocked car in the mall; got caught and was arrested. It certainly doesn’t look like she knows what is best. She accused me of emailing all her relatives a letter I had sent my son saying bad things about her.. I did not do that. The letter was one of fear and concern for the children and I wrote that perhaps she had a medical issue that confused her thinking process.
When my son came into the room he reminded her that she sent the letter to her mother. I suggested that perhaps she was angry at the wrong mother. I told her she owed me an appolgy for accusing me of what she did. She wouldn’t budge. By the way when this happen it was in the newspaper and television. I never told anyone about it, but a few friend did contact me after hearing about it . Being upset I chose not to talk to them about it.
What should I have done when my DIL said she knows what is best for her children.
A worried grandmother
on the airplane, my daughter had to go to the bathroom. cart in the aisle so we try to use the first class bathroom. someone is in there, so we wait behind the curtain. they come out but before we can walk up to the bathroom, someone from first class jumps up in front of us. we politely tell them that our daughter really needs to go. they ignore us and spend 10 minutes in the bathroom. my daughter wet her pants. i wanted to throw the wet undies in his face. nice manners!
We are at a birthday parts Thurday evening, have hired a baby sitter and I am having a conversation with another adult when a child comes up under me on a chair, put both hands on my breast and SHAKES them. Her mother smiles. I said, “There’s no milk in there, and look at her mother. The little girl is 4. She proceeds to do the whole thing again and yells I feel the milk!” still, nothing from her mother. I remove my body from her reach and tell her that ther hasn’t been milk there for a long time. She then throws herself down on the chair head first – which everyone notices and then her mother states. “She’s been thinking about breast feeding a lot lately.”
My adult conversation is over. Unbelievable!!!!!
Starting when my daughter was two months old another mother became very “concerned” because she was so “fat”! Every time I saw her, about once a week, she would constantly quiz me as to what my daughter ate (nothing but breast milk) and how much she weighed. After about six weeks of this, she took me to the side during a meeting we were both attending and asked me if I was concerned because of how heavy my now three month old daughter was, when I explained that I wasn’t concerned that I thought she was doing fine and her weight was not a concern to me she told me that I should be worried about how her weight might affect her (again, she is 3 months old at this time!). The following week she asked me if I had been to the doctors lately. Unbeknownst to her, my daughter had been seeing a number of specialist to help determine whether she had a birth defect that we had been worried about since 18 weeks prenatal, I thought she knew. When I told her that we just had some great news from one of the specialist she said, “Oh, I didn’t know there was an issue, that is great, but did they say anything about her weight?” I was horrified by her complete obsession with my daughters weight, who cares, she is an infant- I wasn’t feeding her Twinkies!
I then stopped seeing her for a while…saw her again when my daughter was about 6 months old…her first question…”Wow, she’s big how much does she weigh now?” My daughter is a beautiful, not overweight toddler now, she has outgrown the baby fat, I am sure that this other mom would be very happy, indeed. What scares me is that she has a daughter a little older then mine…that poor girls self esteem! Needless to say, we aren’t friends.
My mother in law is very tan and kept trying to put our 10 month old baby in the sun. We explained that babies are not supposed to be in the sun, so she suggested a spray tan.
My mother in law believes that her pit bull terrier is perfectly safe to have around my six month old. She refuses to put the dog outside while we’re there.
pushing a double stroller through the supermarket, I kept colliding with the same woman. I was trying to go out of my way to let her pass, and she just starting screaming at me in the middle of the supermarket, in front of my children.
I was at the ATM with my daughter and a guy drives up listening to gansta rap, with b**** and f*** every other word. I kindly pointed out to him that there was a child present. Well, he used both words in reference to me in front of her, which cemented those words in her mind!
Walking down on the sidewalk in a shopping area holding hands with both my children, an angry jogger passes from behind shouts, “you’re blocking the whole, f*cking sidewalk, you stupid b*tch. You can’t be that stupid.” A simple “passing” would have been more effective.
My friend’s son is on Miralax for constipation. Yet I see her feed him NOTHING but the worst, most constipating foods. And the worst part? She’s a dietitian.
a mom came to pick her kid up from a play date a little early as we were cleaning up. She didn’t help clean up and when her kid whined that he didn’t want to, she said that was okay. Hell if i’m having that kid over for a playdate again.
at the supermarket, the gal asked if i wanted help out. i said no thank you, but my little girl said yes, so as they helped us out the supermarket employee says, “It’s obvious who wears the pants in this family”
We have neighbors who simply do not watch their children. Their kids (ages 3 and 5) are often outside alone for long periods of time. Although they have a fenced front and back yard, the kids are playing in the street, even jumping on the cars!
The worst was the day my own son informed me that both kids had climbed our 10′ retaining wall and were running around our patio. When I went outside the younger child ran down the street and the older child was clinging to a loose rock at the top of the wall.
The father doesn’t seem to care what the children do and the mother often yells at the younger child, who is in a continual state of temper tantrum.
The only day I’ve interfered is when the kids were outside alone and I saw the little boy jumping from car to car, fall and hit the back of his head on one car and his face on the grill of the other car before landing on the ground.
He screamed for a few minutes before I went over to ask if he was ok and ask where his parents were.
This has been going on for some time now and I’m worried about this family. We try to stay out of it but when the children are putting themselves in danger (playing in the street, playing outside alone for long periods and climbing high walls into our yard) well, we don’t know what to do.
My husband and I stopped giving our son a bottle about 3 weeks ago but my mil is totally against our decision. She questioned our decision (for the umpteenth time) and told me her pediatrician had said 18 months was a more appropriate time back when she was raising her kids. Then she said she thought it was cruel to take it away from him. I nearly blew a gasket. Back when my son was 4 weeks old, she also told me it was cruel for me to give my son room temperature bottles instead of warm bottles because breast fed babies get milk at 98.6 degrees. Why can’t this woman realize she’s done raising her kids and I am going to raise my son however I see fit. How do you deal with a mil who thinks her ways are gospel?
our friends have a really big dog and my daughter is deathly afraid. i’ve requested that she put the dog outside or in an upstairs bedroom when we visit, but she thinks my daughter just needs to toughen up, so she lets the dog jump all over her. it’s a big dog and she is small for her age.
a friend let her daughter sleep on our brand new couch in the living room during a birthday party. after the party, i noticed a stain that i think is urine. the other mother didn’t say anything about it. i’m wondering if i should mention it.
my friend never cleans up after playdates. her son literally takes every bin in our house and turns it upside down and it doesn’t occur to her to help me as i’m trying to clean them all up.
my son got a goal in a soccer game. i heard the mom of the kid who was playing goalie tell him that it wasn’t really a goal and my kid cheated. they’re 5.
we had playgroup at our house. when i was cleaning up, i noticed that a toy had been broken downstairs. several of the mothers had been supervising down there and no one mentioned it to me.
we went on vacation with in laws and the baby sitter we hired never showed up. the restaurant was nearby and they kept urging me to leave my sleeping child alone in the hotel. i couldn’t do it. i kept thinking of the gal who disappeared in portugal.
we flew to europe to visit family and they picked us up at the airport without car seats. it was a long drive, so i opted to rent a car with carseats instead. they criticized me for that decision the entire trip
i gave my sister in law a bunch of hand me down clothing in great condition. She was furious because there were a few superhero shirts and she was trying to shield her son from commercialism.
if my kids don’t clean up their toys, i send them “on vacation”. my mother in law found my hiding spot while babysitting and gave all the toys back to the kids.
i have my kids do chores. it helps me and is good for them to learn to contribute. my brother in law thinks it’s harsh and accused me of child labor abuse
my mother in law didn’t like the halloween costumes i spent hours making my kids, so she showed up before trick or treating with expensive store bought costumes and insisted my kids wear them.
my neighbor has a child the same age as mine, but her child is reading chapter books and mine barely knows his letters. i think it’s great that her kid is so smart, i just don’t want to hear about it every time i see her.
one mother in our playgroup is a control freak. she is constantly trying to dictate where the kids play, what they eat, even when we are not at her house
my son was cutting in line in front of other kids on a slide and nothing was doing seemed to work, so another mom at the park said to me, “maybe if you read the books i’ve been reading it would be easier for you” like the problem was that i wasn’t trying to be a good parent. i had read almost every book in print and none of it seemed to work on my kid.
my sister in law, doesn’t have kids but feels she needs to tell us how to raise ours. She can’t understand why my two year old can’t sit still for a 2 hour meal or use his fork to eat. She thinks I’m raising him to be “uncivilized”
i just saw a fight at the park yesterday. one mom was on the swing for a while and another mom was waiting. after a few minutes, the waiting mom walks away and says to her son, “i guess she doesn’t want to share.” the mom pushing the swing says, “that was rude, i didn’t even see you there.” it went downhill from there.
a little girl was playing with my daughter at the park for a long time. after a while my daughter got hungry, so i brought out snacks. Her new friend wanted one too but i never give kids snacks without asking their parents permission because of potentially allergies. i asked her where her mom or dad was and she pointed to a man passed out and drooling on the bench. i told her she had to ask him if it was okay before i gave her a snack, so she woke him up and he was furious at me for having his 4 year old daughter wake him, after i had been watching her for an hour and offered to feed her.
at a children’s museum, i smelled a dirty diaper. After checking my own kid, I realized the smell was coming from a little girl playing next to him. i politely mentioned to the mom that i thought her kid had a dirty diaper and she freaked out at me for smelling her daughter’s bottom. So much for trying to be helpful!
My friend’s son is a bully. After he pushed my son down a set of concrete steps, she said to him in a completely calm voice, “Now Johnny, can you help William get up?” I almost hit HER.
Why do my in-laws feel the need to send my kids into a sugar coma every time they see them? Can’t they just hang out and play a game? It drives me crazy that they constantly throw ice cream and candy and crap at my kids every time they are together. Are they worried my kids won’t love them if they don’t get their double-scoop of moose tracks with rainbow sprinkles and gummi bears?
My son is constantly bitten or scratched by another 3 year old boy at school, but nobody wants to discipline him because his older sister has severe disabilities and everyone feels like the family has enough on their plate. I want to say something to the mom because I’m worried about my son, but I don’t want to push her over the edge.
My 4 yr old isn’t sleeping well b/c she’s afraid of monsters. When I drop her off at preschool she’s already exhausted and cranky and has been having huge meltdowns every morning when she goes into her class.Yesterday another mom said maybe I should keep my daughter home until she works out her “monster issues” b/c she might give the other kids “ideas that it’s okay to get up in the middle of the night”. What a jerk!
my husband’s aunt invited us over for dinner then got mad when i went to the bathroom by myself because “my 3 year old needed to be supervised at all times in her home”
a mom was pushing her son on the only baby swing in the park for 40 minutes (i timed it). i finally asked her how much longer she thought she would be and she said “i can stay as long as i want”
Went to a bagel place with friends and ran into a family they knew. the other kids were at our table, eating out food, totally out of control and the other parents completely ignored it. I finally walked the kids over to the other parents who i had never met and asked them as politely as i could if they could keep an eye on their kids. They were offended.
my sister in law is completely crazy about the naps. She won’t go anywhere during nap time, even though her son could easily nap in a car or stroller. We all have to come to her for every family event and holiday so she doesn’t have to disrupt the nap schedule.
my friend NEVER packs snacks for her kids. Whenever we are out together, she just assumes that I will share my kids snacks, which I do because I don’t want her kids to suffer. She never offers to pay me back and never even thanks me.
a good friend lets her children eat sugar all the time — like ice cream before noon. we spend a lot of time with them so she often gives it to my kids too. i try to relaxed about it, but it really bothers me and it’s hard to set limits with my own kids when they see hers eating sugar all the time.
i brought grapes that i had cut up to our playgroup. i cut them in half and in half again, but one of the mothers didn’t think i cut them small enough and was concerned that her child may choke on my snack.
my sister in law is constantly comparing her daughter to mine. Anna already rolled over, Anna can clap, Anna is sleeping through the night. She’s so competitive and they aren’t even a year old.
we got on an airplane with our 4 month old who was fast asleep and the man sitting next to us immediately asked the flight attendent if he would switch seats.
my kids were really wired and running around our house in circles. we had a friend over and her son was right there with them mixing it up. my friend looks at me and says, “my son never acts this way” as if the behavior were contagious and he caught it from my kids
my mother in law fed my 9 month old peanut butter. when i told her you were supposed to wait until they were 1 to limit allergies, she said she did that with my husband and he was fine.
my mother in law repeatedly spoils my children, with gifts year round. i appreciate the thought but hate the clutter and she doesn’t seem to take my not-so-subtle hints
some mom dropped her kid off at preschool today and i heard her telling the teacher that her other two kids have swine flu. The kid she dropped off probably has it too and won’t show symptoms until he’s infected the whole school. i told her she should have left him at home, but she insists he’s healthy. now my son and newborn will probably get sick too.
a friend of mine never follows through on her discipline. she constantly says, “if you do that one more time, we’re going to leave.” Her kid does it five more times and she doesn’t follow through. i’m tempted to discipline for her and tell him he has to leave, but i don’t think that would go over well
my friend’s child is biting mine and she isn’t really doing anything about it. i feel badly that he son is doing this and that she doesn’t really know what to do about the problem, but i feel worse for my daughter who is now afraid of the other kid
my new sister in law told me my kids weren’t invited to her destination wedding. so we had to fly with our young children (i was nursing) and leave them with a sitter
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A so called friend of mine told me that my 2 year old was to agressive and she was afraid my son would poke him in the eye and cause him to go blind.
Well many moms judge when they do not have all the facts. What may look like a ‘typical child’ may not.. They may have underlining conditions that causes outbrust or a mom to react differently then a different ability child. I have been told mean things but they just do not understand my situation
My worst moment was when my son was 18 months old and another little boy bit him in daycare. I found out who bit him and I didn’t speak to the mom for weeks. It seems so ridiculous now, but I was a bit traumatized and thought it was the mom’s fault, till my little one started into his oral phase, then I felt like a hypocrite!
I just saw a five year old in my daughter’s kindergarten class who “just dyed her hair blonde” hello – she’s 5! Who lets their 5 year old do that, or more accurately, does that to a 5 year old?
The other mother is my daughter in law. She was watching me and her son bake cookies. She told me he couldn’t have a cookie because he hadn’t finished his dinner. I said that these were healthy cookies. And rightfully so, she reminded me that she was his mother. That would have been it if she hadn’t continued by saying that she knows what is best for her children. That is when I lost my cool by mentioning for the first time that she left her 10 month old alone in a running, unlocked car in the mall; got caught and was arrested. It certainly doesn’t look like she knows what is best. She accused me of emailing all her relatives a letter I had sent my son saying bad things about her.. I did not do that. The letter was one of fear and concern for the children and I wrote that perhaps she had a medical issue that confused her thinking process.
When my son came into the room he reminded her that she sent the letter to her mother. I suggested that perhaps she was angry at the wrong mother. I told her she owed me an appolgy for accusing me of what she did. She wouldn’t budge. By the way when this happen it was in the newspaper and television. I never told anyone about it, but a few friend did contact me after hearing about it . Being upset I chose not to talk to them about it.
What should I have done when my DIL said she knows what is best for her children.
A worried grandmother
on the airplane, my daughter had to go to the bathroom. cart in the aisle so we try to use the first class bathroom. someone is in there, so we wait behind the curtain. they come out but before we can walk up to the bathroom, someone from first class jumps up in front of us. we politely tell them that our daughter really needs to go. they ignore us and spend 10 minutes in the bathroom. my daughter wet her pants. i wanted to throw the wet undies in his face. nice manners!
We are at a birthday parts Thurday evening, have hired a baby sitter and I am having a conversation with another adult when a child comes up under me on a chair, put both hands on my breast and SHAKES them. Her mother smiles. I said, “There’s no milk in there, and look at her mother. The little girl is 4. She proceeds to do the whole thing again and yells I feel the milk!” still, nothing from her mother. I remove my body from her reach and tell her that ther hasn’t been milk there for a long time. She then throws herself down on the chair head first – which everyone notices and then her mother states. “She’s been thinking about breast feeding a lot lately.”
My adult conversation is over. Unbelievable!!!!!
Starting when my daughter was two months old another mother became very “concerned” because she was so “fat”! Every time I saw her, about once a week, she would constantly quiz me as to what my daughter ate (nothing but breast milk) and how much she weighed. After about six weeks of this, she took me to the side during a meeting we were both attending and asked me if I was concerned because of how heavy my now three month old daughter was, when I explained that I wasn’t concerned that I thought she was doing fine and her weight was not a concern to me she told me that I should be worried about how her weight might affect her (again, she is 3 months old at this time!). The following week she asked me if I had been to the doctors lately. Unbeknownst to her, my daughter had been seeing a number of specialist to help determine whether she had a birth defect that we had been worried about since 18 weeks prenatal, I thought she knew. When I told her that we just had some great news from one of the specialist she said, “Oh, I didn’t know there was an issue, that is great, but did they say anything about her weight?” I was horrified by her complete obsession with my daughters weight, who cares, she is an infant- I wasn’t feeding her Twinkies!
I then stopped seeing her for a while…saw her again when my daughter was about 6 months old…her first question…”Wow, she’s big how much does she weigh now?” My daughter is a beautiful, not overweight toddler now, she has outgrown the baby fat, I am sure that this other mom would be very happy, indeed. What scares me is that she has a daughter a little older then mine…that poor girls self esteem! Needless to say, we aren’t friends.
My mother in law is very tan and kept trying to put our 10 month old baby in the sun. We explained that babies are not supposed to be in the sun, so she suggested a spray tan.
My mother in law believes that her pit bull terrier is perfectly safe to have around my six month old. She refuses to put the dog outside while we’re there.
pushing a double stroller through the supermarket, I kept colliding with the same woman. I was trying to go out of my way to let her pass, and she just starting screaming at me in the middle of the supermarket, in front of my children.
I was at the ATM with my daughter and a guy drives up listening to gansta rap, with b**** and f*** every other word. I kindly pointed out to him that there was a child present. Well, he used both words in reference to me in front of her, which cemented those words in her mind!
Walking down on the sidewalk in a shopping area holding hands with both my children, an angry jogger passes from behind shouts, “you’re blocking the whole, f*cking sidewalk, you stupid b*tch. You can’t be that stupid.” A simple “passing” would have been more effective.
My friend’s son is on Miralax for constipation. Yet I see her feed him NOTHING but the worst, most constipating foods. And the worst part? She’s a dietitian.
my neighbor always curses in front of my children. This morning my 3 year old say “SH*T” I asked him where he learned that word. “From the neighbor”
a woman yelled at me because i grabbed a sales person to help my daughter in the shoe store and she had been waiting
a mom came to pick her kid up from a play date a little early as we were cleaning up. She didn’t help clean up and when her kid whined that he didn’t want to, she said that was okay. Hell if i’m having that kid over for a playdate again.
another mom came over for a playdate and washed my toys before she let her son play with them.
As we boarded a plane, another adult said, “Oh no” when she noticed we were sitting behind her.
at the supermarket, the gal asked if i wanted help out. i said no thank you, but my little girl said yes, so as they helped us out the supermarket employee says, “It’s obvious who wears the pants in this family”
We have neighbors who simply do not watch their children. Their kids (ages 3 and 5) are often outside alone for long periods of time. Although they have a fenced front and back yard, the kids are playing in the street, even jumping on the cars!
The worst was the day my own son informed me that both kids had climbed our 10′ retaining wall and were running around our patio. When I went outside the younger child ran down the street and the older child was clinging to a loose rock at the top of the wall.
The father doesn’t seem to care what the children do and the mother often yells at the younger child, who is in a continual state of temper tantrum.
The only day I’ve interfered is when the kids were outside alone and I saw the little boy jumping from car to car, fall and hit the back of his head on one car and his face on the grill of the other car before landing on the ground.
He screamed for a few minutes before I went over to ask if he was ok and ask where his parents were.
This has been going on for some time now and I’m worried about this family. We try to stay out of it but when the children are putting themselves in danger (playing in the street, playing outside alone for long periods and climbing high walls into our yard) well, we don’t know what to do.
my neighbor keeps comparing her kid to mine
Its just sometimes people seem to get themselves tied up in unnecessary knots over something that
My husband and I stopped giving our son a bottle about 3 weeks ago but my mil is totally against our decision. She questioned our decision (for the umpteenth time) and told me her pediatrician had said 18 months was a more appropriate time back when she was raising her kids. Then she said she thought it was cruel to take it away from him. I nearly blew a gasket. Back when my son was 4 weeks old, she also told me it was cruel for me to give my son room temperature bottles instead of warm bottles because breast fed babies get milk at 98.6 degrees. Why can’t this woman realize she’s done raising her kids and I am going to raise my son however I see fit. How do you deal with a mil who thinks her ways are gospel?
when she babysits, my mother leaves little notes about what i can do better as a mom
i really don’t need to know that your child tested in the 99th percentile.
our friends have a really big dog and my daughter is deathly afraid. i’ve requested that she put the dog outside or in an upstairs bedroom when we visit, but she thinks my daughter just needs to toughen up, so she lets the dog jump all over her. it’s a big dog and she is small for her age.
a friend let her daughter sleep on our brand new couch in the living room during a birthday party. after the party, i noticed a stain that i think is urine. the other mother didn’t say anything about it. i’m wondering if i should mention it.
my friend never cleans up after playdates. her son literally takes every bin in our house and turns it upside down and it doesn’t occur to her to help me as i’m trying to clean them all up.
my son got a goal in a soccer game. i heard the mom of the kid who was playing goalie tell him that it wasn’t really a goal and my kid cheated. they’re 5.
we had playgroup at our house. when i was cleaning up, i noticed that a toy had been broken downstairs. several of the mothers had been supervising down there and no one mentioned it to me.
we went on vacation with in laws and the baby sitter we hired never showed up. the restaurant was nearby and they kept urging me to leave my sleeping child alone in the hotel. i couldn’t do it. i kept thinking of the gal who disappeared in portugal.
we flew to europe to visit family and they picked us up at the airport without car seats. it was a long drive, so i opted to rent a car with carseats instead. they criticized me for that decision the entire trip
i gave my sister in law a bunch of hand me down clothing in great condition. She was furious because there were a few superhero shirts and she was trying to shield her son from commercialism.
if my kids don’t clean up their toys, i send them “on vacation”. my mother in law found my hiding spot while babysitting and gave all the toys back to the kids.
i have my kids do chores. it helps me and is good for them to learn to contribute. my brother in law thinks it’s harsh and accused me of child labor abuse
my mother in law didn’t like the halloween costumes i spent hours making my kids, so she showed up before trick or treating with expensive store bought costumes and insisted my kids wear them.
my friend’s son literally threw a train at my son’s head. as he is standing there bleeding in her kitchen, she dismisses it with “boys will be boys”
my neighbor has a child the same age as mine, but her child is reading chapter books and mine barely knows his letters. i think it’s great that her kid is so smart, i just don’t want to hear about it every time i see her.
one mother in our playgroup is a control freak. she is constantly trying to dictate where the kids play, what they eat, even when we are not at her house
my friends son is out of control. i think there’s something wrong with him, but she just says he’s a boy.
my son was cutting in line in front of other kids on a slide and nothing was doing seemed to work, so another mom at the park said to me, “maybe if you read the books i’ve been reading it would be easier for you” like the problem was that i wasn’t trying to be a good parent. i had read almost every book in print and none of it seemed to work on my kid.
my sister in law, doesn’t have kids but feels she needs to tell us how to raise ours. She can’t understand why my two year old can’t sit still for a 2 hour meal or use his fork to eat. She thinks I’m raising him to be “uncivilized”
i just saw a fight at the park yesterday. one mom was on the swing for a while and another mom was waiting. after a few minutes, the waiting mom walks away and says to her son, “i guess she doesn’t want to share.” the mom pushing the swing says, “that was rude, i didn’t even see you there.” it went downhill from there.
a little girl was playing with my daughter at the park for a long time. after a while my daughter got hungry, so i brought out snacks. Her new friend wanted one too but i never give kids snacks without asking their parents permission because of potentially allergies. i asked her where her mom or dad was and she pointed to a man passed out and drooling on the bench. i told her she had to ask him if it was okay before i gave her a snack, so she woke him up and he was furious at me for having his 4 year old daughter wake him, after i had been watching her for an hour and offered to feed her.
at a children’s museum, i smelled a dirty diaper. After checking my own kid, I realized the smell was coming from a little girl playing next to him. i politely mentioned to the mom that i thought her kid had a dirty diaper and she freaked out at me for smelling her daughter’s bottom. So much for trying to be helpful!
Do you have a certain target audience for Mommy Manners? Moms of children 3 and younger?
My friend’s son is a bully. After he pushed my son down a set of concrete steps, she said to him in a completely calm voice, “Now Johnny, can you help William get up?” I almost hit HER.
Why do my in-laws feel the need to send my kids into a sugar coma every time they see them? Can’t they just hang out and play a game? It drives me crazy that they constantly throw ice cream and candy and crap at my kids every time they are together. Are they worried my kids won’t love them if they don’t get their double-scoop of moose tracks with rainbow sprinkles and gummi bears?
My son is constantly bitten or scratched by another 3 year old boy at school, but nobody wants to discipline him because his older sister has severe disabilities and everyone feels like the family has enough on their plate. I want to say something to the mom because I’m worried about my son, but I don’t want to push her over the edge.
My 4 yr old isn’t sleeping well b/c she’s afraid of monsters. When I drop her off at preschool she’s already exhausted and cranky and has been having huge meltdowns every morning when she goes into her class.Yesterday another mom said maybe I should keep my daughter home until she works out her “monster issues” b/c she might give the other kids “ideas that it’s okay to get up in the middle of the night”. What a jerk!
please don’t judge me when I allow my kids to have a cookie, candy or ice cream just because you don’t.
a neighbor saw that my kids were having a playdate with some buddies, so she sent her kid over to join them
my husband’s aunt invited us over for dinner then got mad when i went to the bathroom by myself because “my 3 year old needed to be supervised at all times in her home”
another mom at the preschool asked me to take my son down from a climbing toy because “he was making her nervous”
a mom was pushing her son on the only baby swing in the park for 40 minutes (i timed it). i finally asked her how much longer she thought she would be and she said “i can stay as long as i want”
Went to a bagel place with friends and ran into a family they knew. the other kids were at our table, eating out food, totally out of control and the other parents completely ignored it. I finally walked the kids over to the other parents who i had never met and asked them as politely as i could if they could keep an eye on their kids. They were offended.
my girlfriend always puts the TV on during playdates. i love her and our kids adore eachother, but I hate all the TV.
my sister in law is completely crazy about the naps. She won’t go anywhere during nap time, even though her son could easily nap in a car or stroller. We all have to come to her for every family event and holiday so she doesn’t have to disrupt the nap schedule.
my good friends has a daughter that is mean. She teases my kids, calling them “stupid” and “baby” and her mom never does anything about it.
my friend NEVER packs snacks for her kids. Whenever we are out together, she just assumes that I will share my kids snacks, which I do because I don’t want her kids to suffer. She never offers to pay me back and never even thanks me.
a good friend lets her children eat sugar all the time — like ice cream before noon. we spend a lot of time with them so she often gives it to my kids too. i try to relaxed about it, but it really bothers me and it’s hard to set limits with my own kids when they see hers eating sugar all the time.
i brought grapes that i had cut up to our playgroup. i cut them in half and in half again, but one of the mothers didn’t think i cut them small enough and was concerned that her child may choke on my snack.
my sister in law is constantly comparing her daughter to mine. Anna already rolled over, Anna can clap, Anna is sleeping through the night. She’s so competitive and they aren’t even a year old.
we got on an airplane with our 4 month old who was fast asleep and the man sitting next to us immediately asked the flight attendent if he would switch seats.
my kids were really wired and running around our house in circles. we had a friend over and her son was right there with them mixing it up. my friend looks at me and says, “my son never acts this way” as if the behavior were contagious and he caught it from my kids
my 2 year old knocked down a little girl by accident in a store and her hysterical mother threatened to call the police– on my 2 year old!
my mother in law fed my 9 month old peanut butter. when i told her you were supposed to wait until they were 1 to limit allergies, she said she did that with my husband and he was fine.
some random stranger at the park offered to trade my daughter a lolipop for her pacifer. She’s 1
i had just gotten done disciplining my child when a friend asked, “do you mind, it takes a village” and proceeded to give him one more reprimand.
my mother in law repeatedly spoils my children, with gifts year round. i appreciate the thought but hate the clutter and she doesn’t seem to take my not-so-subtle hints
some mom dropped her kid off at preschool today and i heard her telling the teacher that her other two kids have swine flu. The kid she dropped off probably has it too and won’t show symptoms until he’s infected the whole school. i told her she should have left him at home, but she insists he’s healthy. now my son and newborn will probably get sick too.
a friend of mine never follows through on her discipline. she constantly says, “if you do that one more time, we’re going to leave.” Her kid does it five more times and she doesn’t follow through. i’m tempted to discipline for her and tell him he has to leave, but i don’t think that would go over well
my friend’s child is biting mine and she isn’t really doing anything about it. i feel badly that he son is doing this and that she doesn’t really know what to do about the problem, but i feel worse for my daughter who is now afraid of the other kid
my mother in law feeds my kids cookies for breakfast, even when i ask her not to
someone asked me if i had my 2 year old on ritalin
my new sister in law told me my kids weren’t invited to her destination wedding. so we had to fly with our young children (i was nursing) and leave them with a sitter