You were best friends. Your kids were best buds. Now you don’t talk and you’re not sure why.
Sadly, this scenario is more common than it would seem. Families that do everything together and seem inseparable…. until they’re not. One family, for whatever reason, decides that the friendship isn’t working anymore and claims to be “really busy”, stop returning phone calls or worse still, stand you up for play dates. It’s slightly reminiscent of your dating days when you were being dumped.
Like dating woes, most of us struggle for answers beyond “she’s just not that into you.” Has this ever happened to you or have you ever been the dumpee. What happened and how did you handle it?
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How revealing that a mom would think her kids “suck”. No wonder other people think they do! Friendships take commitment. Lacking commitment they will not last over time. Be willing to accept and look over faults and the relationship will last.
That is ridiculous that a mom would think her kids suck. The kids can only be as good as their parents. Why do parents refuse to take responsibility for the way their kids behave? Friendship on a deep level requires commitment. There has to be a recognition that nether of you are perfect. Be willing to look over faults and things will be fine.
Yes! Yes and yes.
I hope you really don’t think your kids suck if you can’t manage to want to be around your own children can you really believe others are going to want to be around you?
anyhow my family used to be really close to another family until the mom got into a lot of weird health/spiritual stuff I’m all for everyone believing what they will but it is hard to be around people who used to share your parenting style and are now pulling you in another direction that you don’t agree with. other times you really just are too busy I honestly only have time for one high maintenance friend at a time I want time to myself so if you are complaining a lot or don’t have things that make me really want to spend time in your company reading a book in my free time might seem like a a better option
it is easy to say that everyone is just a jerk but if you go around thinking everyone is a jerk then who is really the jerk? honestly if it happens a lot it probably is you suck it up look at yourself and see if you are really being a good friend if you can’t see anything wrong with your self eat some humble pie and look again I’m not saying you should try to change your personality but I do think working on your social skills cognitively is something every one should do if they want to be a good friend
my baby is sleeping for a min so I don’t want to wast my precious time proofing this I hope it is readable anyhow
I have often been dumped because of my kids. I can’t blame the dumpee. Frankly, if given the choice, I’d have nothing to do with my kids either. Unfortunately, I’m stuck with them. A true friend would recognize that my kids suck and also recognize that I’m incompetent to raise them properly. A true friend would just suck it up and not dump me. No wonder, true friends are hard to find.