In the new Sex in the City movie, Charlotte and Miranda struggle with mommy guilt and judgment. Miranda for picking work over her child’s milestones and Charlotte for feeling overwhelmed, frustrated and imperfect, even with full time help (think Mary Poppins, sans the bra).
Over lunch, when Charlotte’s child starts to cry inconsolably, Miranda tries to console her, “it’s just the terrible twos.” “My child’s not terrible,” Charlotte snaps back. Instead she tries to maintain the mirage that everything is perfect, even in the desert amongst her closest friends.
Has the idea that we need to pretend that we can do it all and parenthood is the best experience ever (even with our closest friends) become such a cultural accepted concept that it made it into the ultimate movie about female friendship? With these women who shared everything – every sexual escapade, heartbreak and sickness – Charlotte somehow feels she can’t share her parenting insecurities. Are they too embarrassing? Or does she feel she is the only one who struggles with these issues? I won’t ruin the plot and how it plays out, but it was interesting to see this very real issue magnified on the big screen?
Do you share your parental feeling and anxiety with your girlfriends?