Category Archives: Conflict with Friends
What To Do When Your Friend’s Kid is Mean to Your Kid
You love your friend, but your kids don’t get along. Or worse, her kid teases, bullies or physically abuses yours. For some this is a no brainer – if the kids can’t get along, you can’t get together. But for others, the line in the sand is not so clear. We really enjoy our friendship [...]
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Martyr Moms
It’s interesting how mothers label each other SELFISH or LAZY. “She loves to drop the kids with a babysitter, so she can exercise and shop,” one gossips. “We never use babysitters,” says another in a holier than thou tone. The implication is clear: spending time away from your kids makes you selfish, lazy or worse, [...]
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The Benefit of Not Siding with Your Child
You did a great job mom! Someone actually said that to me in the park yesterday. My daughter was hysterical claiming that some other kid had hurt her. I didn’t see it because I was busy pushing her younger brother on the swing. She was hurt. She was angry. She was after revenge. She wanted [...]
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Letting your child experience disappointment
I think it’s human nature to want to protect our children from hurt and disappointment. As a result, we are sometimes quick to anger when another parent’s actions cause our children any upset. “How dare they do that to my child,” we fume. “If I were them, I would have handled it differently,” we rant. [...]
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Shame — How others influence your parenting
At a birthday party this weekend, another mother who I have known causally for years snapped at me that my son was too close to her daughter. It wasn’t so much what she was asking – her kid doesn’t like people too close to her and I respect that – but how she did it [...]
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Even Charlotte feels Judged
In the new Sex in the City movie, Charlotte and Miranda struggle with mommy guilt and judgment. Miranda for picking work over her child’s milestones and Charlotte for feeling overwhelmed, frustrated and imperfect, even with full time help (think Mary Poppins, sans the bra). Over lunch, when Charlotte’s child starts to cry inconsolably, Miranda tries [...]
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Why we care what Other People think of our Parenting Choices?
“Girls think other people’s opinions are a good way to judge their abilities,” Mindset author Carol Dweck mentioned in a speech last night. Through her extensive research on fostering success, Dweck found that girls, and as a result women, give far more weight to other people’s opinions than their male peers. I found this interesting [...]
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Torture Momma
A friend related a story about how she was trying to encourage her three year old daughter to toughen up and walk the few blocks between their house and her brother’s preschool pick up. Used to being carried, the daughter pitched a fit in the middle of the street. “I can’t walk! My legs hurt. [...]
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Are most of us lonelier than we realize?
“We are far lonelier that most of us even realize,” a source explained to me during an interview. At first blush, I couldn’t imagine that this observation applied to me. Afterall, I am so busy and I spend my day talking to other moms – at preschool and kindergarten drop off and pick up, running [...]
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Mom friend break ups